| No. | Item | Definition |
|---|---|---|
| 1. | Can we agree on one thing? | builds from shared points |
| 2. | Can we be honest kindly? | encourages gentle honesty |
| 3. | Can we check our assumptions? | questions possible misreadings |
| 4. | Can we clear the air? | invites honest resolution |
| 5. | Can we find common ground? | seeks shared agreement |
| 6. | Can we focus on solutions? | shifts toward problem-solving |
| 7. | Can we keep an open mind? | encourages flexibility |
| 8. | Can we lower the tension? | asks to de-escalate |
| 9. | Can we name the real issue? | seeks the core problem |
| 10. | Can we pause for a second? | requests a brief break |
| 11. | Can we reset the tone? | asks for calmer interaction |
| 12. | Can we revisit this gently? | returns to topic calmly |
| 13. | Can we slow down a bit? | asks for a calmer pace |
| 14. | Can we start over? | offers a fresh beginning |
| 15. | Can we take turns speaking? | creates orderly discussion |
| 16. | Can we talk about what happened? | opens discussion of events |
| 17. | Can we talk calmly? | requests a calm conversation |
| 18. | Can we talk this through? | invites calm discussion |
| 19. | Can we try again? | offers another attempt |
| 20. | Can we untangle this? | offers to sort confusion |
| 21. | Help me understand. | asks for clarification calmly |
| 22. | I can meet you halfway. | offers compromise |
| 23. | I can see your point. | recognizes their reasoning |
| 24. | I care about our relationship. | prioritizes the connection |
| 25. | I don’t want this to escalate. | aims to prevent worsening |
| 26. | I don’t want to make this worse. | aims to prevent harm |
| 27. | I get why that bothered you. | shows understanding of impact |
| 28. | I hear that you’re hurt. | acknowledges emotional pain |
| 29. | I hear what you’re saying. | acknowledges their point |
| 30. | I hear your concern. | acknowledges the issue raised |
| 31. | I hear your side. | acknowledges their account |
| 32. | I know I played a role. | accepts partial responsibility |
| 33. | I know this is hard. | acknowledges difficulty |
| 34. | I know this matters to you. | acknowledges importance to them |
| 35. | I may have misunderstood. | admits possible misreading |
| 36. | I regret how I said that. | apologizes for delivery |
| 37. | I respect that this matters. | shows regard for importance |
| 38. | I respect your feelings. | shows regard for emotions |
| 39. | I see the impact now. | recognizes consequences |
| 40. | I see where you’re coming from. | recognizes their background reasoning |
| 41. | I see why that felt unfair. | validates unfairness felt |
| 42. | I see why you’re upset. | validates their feelings |
| 43. | I understand why you’re angry. | recognizes their anger |
| 44. | I understand you’re frustrated. | recognizes their frustration |
| 45. | I understand your concern. | shows comprehension of worry |
| 46. | I value your perspective. | shows respect for their view |
| 47. | I want to be fair. | signals balanced intent |
| 48. | I want to be part of the fix. | offers help in repair |
| 49. | I want to fix this. | shows commitment to repair |
| 50. | I want to hear you out. | invites them to speak |
| 51. | I want to make this right. | shows repair intent |
| 52. | I want to move forward. | focuses on progress |
| 53. | I want to resolve this well. | shows care for the process |
| 54. | I want to respond better. | commits to improvement |
| 55. | I want to understand better. | shows desire for clarity |
| 56. | I want to understand your view. | shows openness to their perspective |
| 57. | I want us both heard. | supports mutual voice |
| 58. | I want us on the same page. | seeks shared understanding |
| 59. | I was wrong about that. | admits being mistaken |
| 60. | I’m sorry for my part. | accepts responsibility |
| 61. | I’m willing to listen. | offers attention and openness |
| 62. | Let’s address this directly. | encourages straightforward discussion |
| 63. | Let’s avoid personal attacks. | sets respectful limits |
| 64. | Let’s be clear about this. | seeks clarity |
| 65. | Let’s clear this up. | aims to remove confusion |
| 66. | Let’s figure this out. | invites joint problem-solving |
| 67. | Let’s find a solution together. | suggests teamwork on the problem |
| 68. | Let’s find a way forward. | seeks next steps together |
| 69. | Let’s focus on the issue. | redirects to the problem |
| 70. | Let’s keep listening. | encourages continued attention |
| 71. | Let’s keep this productive. | maintains useful discussion |
| 72. | Let’s keep this respectful. | sets a civil tone |
| 73. | Let’s look for a compromise. | seeks middle ground |
| 74. | Let’s make this constructive. | pushes toward helpful dialogue |
| 75. | Let’s not assume the worst. | discourages negative assumptions |
| 76. | Let’s not talk over each other. | sets speaking boundaries |
| 77. | Let’s solve the problem. | centers on resolution |
| 78. | Let’s stick to the facts. | keeps discussion grounded |
| 79. | Let’s take a step back. | slows the conflict down |
| 80. | Let’s try a different approach. | suggests a new method |
| 81. | Let’s work this out. | focuses on resolving it |
| 82. | What am I missing? | invites correction or context |
| 83. | What are we both wanting? | identifies shared needs |
| 84. | What are you hoping for? | asks about desired outcome |
| 85. | What can I do differently? | asks how to improve |
| 86. | What can we agree on? | looks for shared points |
| 87. | What can we learn from this? | seeks growth from conflict |
| 88. | What did you hear me say? | checks understanding |
| 89. | What do you need from me? | asks how to help |
| 90. | What do you need right now? | asks about immediate needs |
| 91. | What feels unresolved? | asks what remains unsettled |
| 92. | What matters most here? | focuses on priorities |
| 93. | What needs to change? | asks for necessary changes |
| 94. | What outcome feels fair? | asks about fairness |
| 95. | What would a good outcome be? | asks for desired resolution |
| 96. | What would feel respectful? | asks about respectful treatment |
| 97. | What would help here? | asks for a useful next step |
| 98. | What would help you feel heard? | asks how to validate them |
| 99. | What would make this better? | asks for improvement ideas |
| 100. | What would you like instead? | asks for an alternative |
